According to the way I think, it should be a selection of who you'd like to meet, then get to know. Just like meeting someone in a public place, exchange numbers, then find out if there something to build on. All this communicating for months, then finally meeting, only to discover there is nothing in common.
Let me share my last experience. We had phone chemistry for sure. Talked, texted almost every day, really shared life experiences, laughed and shared dreams of the future, though not shared dreams of togetherness. Our individual bucket list... He is a long distance trucker, which worked well with my sense of adventure and excrement of traveling with him sometimes. But there was something not quite right..... We both lived in different cities that aren't that far a part, but he wasn't trying to meet me. It was mentioned and his reason was, he was too busy with preparations to get his next assignment for another trip. Going back and rereading his profile, it did say he wasn't looking for a relationship of any kind. With that being the case, I backed off about wanting to meet. Then last Sunday, after doing laundry, decided why not go to the mountain, if the mountain can't come to you! I drove to a certain point, and waited at a gas station for him to have me follow him.... And I could not believe who came over to my car!!!! This could not possibly the person I'd been in communication with, RIGHT.
The person who came up to my car looked like SEA HAGG'S brother from cartoons... This raggedy mouth man with one tooth in the top and dirty brown teeth on the bottom had the nerve to smile at me, saying" You sure are a pretty woman". OMG, what in the world, I asked myself over and over. Being the polite person I am, acted as if everything was ok, and preceded to hang out with him. Met his friends who were eclectic artsy types. One person has absolutely fabulous art, and secretly, I was saying too bad this isn't the person I'm meeting. Then he kept trying to find out if I'd be seeing him again, to which it was avoided.
REALLY, why would that happen, NO TEETH and I am a stickler about this very issue!!! I was wearing sweats and beat up sneakers!!!! A wardrobe situation that can be changed in five minutes or less. A missing "grill", is not cute. The amount of time spent talking and texting could have been enough hours to be paid from a job. Matter of fact this whole introduction thing is a job. Constantly interviewing and being interviewed.
My new solution as stated earlier, We communicate by sending an email, then exchange numbers, talk briefly, then meet. After that we'll know if there is anything to build on, or fizzle, this way we are not wasting each others time. As they say" Time is precious and it passes way too quickly, so seize the moment and don't waste it".